Finding My Own Rhythm This Holiday Season
We’re officially in the holidays now. Thanksgiving just passed, Christmas is coming fast, and I’ve been noticing how this time of year brings up a lot. It’s painted as a season of joy, gathering, and celebration. And for the most part it is. But, it can also feel heavy.
Over the years, I’ve seen how the holidays can bring stress, pressure, and the feeling that everything has to be “just right.” I’ve felt that pull myself. The perfect meals, the perfect gifts, the perfect moments. And when I look back, I notice that the times I tried to make everything perfect were the times I drifted the most from how I actually want to live.
That’s something I’m becoming more aware of. I’ve always felt a little out of place when things come from obligation instead of something real. Not because I think the holidays are wrong or because I don’t enjoy giving… it’s just that when I’ve given from pressure instead of joy, it hasn’t felt good. It’s felt heavy. It’s felt like I’m forcing something that’s supposed to be simple.
I’m not saying I’ve figured anything out. I’m just noticing patterns in myself, what drains me and what feels natural. Maybe that’s why the traditional holiday rhythm has never felt right.
When I imagine the season I actually want, it looks slower. Calmer. More grounded. A Slow morning with Kelly and the kids. A chilly surf session. A cup of Land & Sea coffee. That is authentic and in alignment with who I am. Simple.
A quiet drive up the coast to capture some images that speak to me is on the list too. There’s something about being on the road this time of year, the ocean is so alive, the crowds thin out, and it all slows down just enough to just be.
It reminds me that the things I used to chase during the holidays weren’t things I actually needed. Family time, a few good waves, and a road trip. No pressure. No expectations.
Just choosing what feels honest for me.
And if any of this lands with you, I’d be curious to hear what the holidays feel like on your side of things.
Choose your joy.
